A Bombshell State of Mind

So you want to be a bombshell, and you're wondering what's stopping you. No matter what clothes you buy, how perfect your makeup is or how good you smell, you feel like something's missing. You look like a bombshell but you don't feel like a bombshell.

Well, it's also a mindset. Have you ever seen someone who on the surface doesn't seem all that put together but people are drawn to them? It's their mindset, it's how they interact with people. You don't have to be the loudest, most extroverted person in the room but we seem to forget how much charisma plays a part.

A true bombshell knows who she is and what she wants. She never feels swayed by trends unless they truly interest her, in fact she may even get to trends years later because she wanted to know if she truly liked it. A bombshell is neither behind trends or in front of them, rather she exists in a parallel time, doing only what pleases her.

A true bombshell knows life is meant to be enjoyed, not weighed down with concerns of aging and weight gain and appearing perfect 24/7. She knows an orgasm does just as much if not more for her skin as a 20 step Korean skincare routine. She doesn't miss out on life because she's afraid of getting fat or looking ugly. Instead she knows each pound is a trip to a new restaurant with her friends, a homecooked meal prepared by someone she loves, a late night snack run because she just had to have white macadamia nut cookies. There's no use in worrying about wrinkles, and having smooth plasticine skin so a "morning shed" routine is unneeded. A bonnet and silk sheets is her late night luxury.

A true bombshell knows it's all about her energy. If you find yourself receiving random love confessions on the street, it's because they sensed you. And I don't mean vulgar propositions, I mean men and women stopping to give sincere compliments, randomly getting flowers placed into your hands, children smiling and terribly whispering to their mothers that you're pretty. That's bombshell energy.

And most of all, a true bombshell knows that even on her worst days, when it feels like the sky is gloomy and nothing is going right, the beauty and love in her heart will shine through every time.

The Nu-Bombshell Guide: Foreword

Often times we think being a bombshell is all about only being one type of woman. Glamorous, with big bouncy hair and a stereotypically feminine aura. But if anything, the 2010s-2020s has proven a bombshell can come in many forms. She doesn't have to only saunter when she walks. She can stride, stomp and bounce her way into our heads and our hearts with a hearty cackles as much as a coy giggle. Being a bombshell isn't only a look. It's a state of mind, an attitude, a way of commanding attention and leaving a crowd in awe even when it seems like you're not trying. Being a bombshell starts with confidence, earnestness and charm. The material things come later.

This series is inspired by 'The Bombshell Manual of Style' by Lauren Stover. A lighthearted beauty and lifestyle book that takes inspiration from stars of the Golden Age of Hollywood to give women a taste of glamor in their day to day lives. I myself own that book, it's a favorite read of mine whenever I've been in the dumps and need a pick me up. It reminds me life is only as drab or as fab as I make it. And I wanted to give it a modern twist. I want to make it more accessible for the women of now, coming of age in a time where it feels like there's only one correct way to be and we're drowning in too much information, desperate wannabes, and a search for how to feel at one with ourselves. I want to update the book to be more inclusive as well--more Black icons and icons of color, greater body rep, and ways to show there's more than one type of femininity to aspire to. Like with the original book, you can take or leave my tips. This isn't a rulebook so much as a guide, little tips and tricks I've picked up that I want to share with you all.

I'll cover perfume, makeup, fashion, hair and other miscellaneous lifestyle tips. Some will be taken from the book and revamped. Those I will mark clearly so as it is not misconstrued. I hope you enjoy and please feel free to leave comments discussing what I post and what you would like to see!